Boundaries as Self-Leadership
Boundaries don’t shut down love. They create a container where love can be real.
original photography, “Tofino Elders” by B. Littleton
Upgrading the Operating System: Boundaries as Self-Leadership
Eventually, we reach a threshold. The old pattern of people-pleasing, over-functioning, or tolerating harm simply stops working. There is a deep knowing that something must change.
This is the moment of upgrade.
Boundaries are not just external limits. They are internal commitments. They allow us to say:
“I will no longer abandon myself for belonging.”
“I will not betray my body for approval.”
“I will not silence my truth to keep someone comfortable.”
Boundaries don’t make us cold. They make us clear.
They don't isolate us. They invite healthy connection.
They don’t shut down love. They create a container where love can be real.
I ask you to be curious: How do I provide self-leadership for my emotional, physical, creative, and spiritual Self? Where and what are my Boundaries of Love?
Closing Affirmation
I am no longer available for relationships that ask me to abandon myself.
I honor the wisdom of my body, the clarity of my boundaries, and the truth of my experience.
I am allowed to take up space, protect my peace, and choose love that includes me.
My worth is not measured by how much I endure, but by how deeply I respect the life within me.
The past few entries are excerpts from a larger document I created while teaching my foundational course, “Life After a Narcissist: Discover Your Amazing Life” from the chapter called, Boundaries of Love.
written by Brenda Littleton
original photography, “Tofino Elders” by B. Littleton
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