Life After Fifty: Being Nice Was Never the Assignment
Part Therapy. Part Coaching. Part Graduate Seminar. Part Prayer.
Life After Fifty
This is for you if you’ve hit a certain age and nothing makes sense the way it used to. Your second marriage looks suspiciously like the one your parents had, and you swore you’d never repeat that story. Your profession feels more like a grind than a gift. The stress outweighs the return.
You’re still managing money wounds that keep resurfacing: student loans, mortgages, the quiet shame of feeling behind. But really, it’s not about being rich. You just want to feel whole. At peace. Free.
And you’ve reached the absolute end of tolerating emotional abuse—from narcissists, controlling spouses, manipulative family systems, or the sticky, exhausting web of codependency. You were raised to be nice, but it cost you your voice, your boundaries, and your boldness. And now you're angry. Rightfully so.
Because somewhere inside you is a soul who’s ready to stop shrinking, stop apologizing, and stop asking for permission.
Here’s what so many people over fifty are just now realizing:
Much of your suffering wasn’t personal failure. It was inherited programming.
You didn’t fail.
You adapted.
You survived.
But now it’s time to do more than survive.
The question you keep circling is:
Who am I now?
And more urgently:
How do I create a life that has enough room for me?
This isn’t about reinvention.
It’s about restoration.
It’s about becoming the self you were never given permission to be.
And maybe, just maybe, it’s time to stop waiting.
You’ve carried quiet, enduring dreams for years.
To write.
To make art.
To live a creative life that feels like you.
To get a dog.
To learn to kayak.
To ditch the Gucci suits and finally dress for the life you actually want.
And now, you face the rawest question of all.
Are you really going to make it?
Is the dream you’ve held close all these years really going to arrive?
Or are you staring straight into the possibility that the dream was a lifeboat—something to keep you afloat inside a false reality—and now the truth is screaming at you to face the next threshold of change?
One client said,
“I grew more in three sessions with you than I did an entire year in traditional therapy.”
If that feels familiar, welcome. You're not too late. You're right on time.
This is your invitation to shed the outdated agreements.
To reclaim your boldness. Your worth. Your weird. Your wisdom.
Because being nice was never the assignment.
Being you was.
Are You Ready to Cross the Threshold?
If you're done circling the same patterns…
If you’re ready to move through the excuses, the over-functioning, and the quiet ache that something still isn’t right…
This four-month program is for you.
You’ll receive therapeutic coaching that addresses the physical, emotional, and spiritual patterns that keep showing up—asking for your attention, ready to be resolved.
We’ll work with somatic self-regulation, Jungian methods, journal writing, and creative expression to help you reclaim a sense of power and peace in your own body. Writing will be one of our primary tools—for self-regulation, self-knowledge, and the gentle act of telling the truth on the page.
Because when you begin to make choices from your own center—
not from habit, not from fear, not for anyone else's comfort—
you begin to create a life of potential, joy, and creative curiosity.
I know this space matters to you. I know how much you long to come home to yourself.
Email brenda@brendalittleton.com for information.
Here are a few of the questions we’ll hold together:
What feels like “too much” in my life right now?
Where in my body do I feel heavy or tense when I think about a certain person or situation?
When do I feel most at ease in my day? What am I doing in that moment?
What do I pretend not to notice, because it’s easier to avoid?
If I didn’t have to please anyone, what would I say no to today?
What small desire have I been ignoring, even if it seems insignificant?
What did I love or long for before I started managing everything for everyone else?